Friday, November 18, 2016

Spencer and Dad Email - November 14

Hi Dad!

You asked last week how I was doing - I'm doing alright! Like I've said before, I really don't think I could ever just be super sad and depressed and stuff like some missionaries, but sometimes it's still hard! It's been a really difficult proselyting switch from before the office to now. I feel like every week passes and I just didn't have the time I wanted to work and teach. It's already november! And by the time we leave the office it's already super dark. Haha I don't see the sun anymore! But yeah, it's been really strange. I get along alright with Elder Yoder, but this is the first time in my mission since training that I am not technically the Senior Comp, and he doesn't really listen to me or like to hear my suggestions on stuff. I never say anything negative to or about him, it's just like stuff when we'll be working or office issues, but it's been hard. Now, I'll stop talking about it because I'm really doing fine; it's just weird and I've been struggling to get out of these kinds of stressed and frustrated feelings that I get by working. We found a really awesome brazilian family on Sunday! They are from the "assembly of God" I think it's called in English, and they got here in Portugal a few months ago, and they were super interested in the Book of Mormon! And we have an appointment with that guy Virgílio tonight and we'll teach him the Plan of Salvation, and invite him to be baptized, and we'll see how it goes! I really love teaching! I get the best feeling when people understand or have more questions to understand, because it means they want to get closer to God. And I love that!

The bed bugs are gone, fortunately! Haha I didn't realize that I hadn't told you guys - Elder and Sister Roque (who are the office couple who are brazilian and awesome) took our mattresses and had them burned, got us new ones, and had an exterminator de buggify our house! So it's all good! Haha I thought is was a little much, but I haven't had any bites, so I can't complain! 

what I miss about Utah/America - I miss American food so much. Like homeade hamburgers and mashed potatoes and campfire hotdogs and breakfast burritos and milk and pot roast. And roomy houses are nice too! Everything in Portugal is small and squishy, and nobody has room for anything! And grass. There is like no grass here! Besides that, just non-missionary stuff like walking slow for no reason and relaxing after eating a meal. That never happens on the mission, haha!

That would be awesome if you could be partners with the Plymouth society! I understand better how important it is to have good records because here they don't have as many good records, and it makes genealogy harder. 

I didn't know that that is a problem in the church to have more faithful women than men, but now that you say it it is actually the case here too - the relief society is really big in my ward, and last week they joined the high priests group and the Elders quorum together and released the Elders quorum president because there aren't enough men. Strange! What do you think about it? What do you think needs to happen or what can we do as faithful priesthood holders to change? 

I wrote about Trump in mom's email. I'd like to hear your thoughts if you guys are comfortable with it!

I like to think eternally when I realize that this time on Earth really just isn't enough! It makes me happy to know that I will have the opportunity to progress eternally, depending on what I do here. 

Okay love you Dad! Thanks for your email! 


Love, Elder Valentine!

Elder V to Mommy V Again, November 14

Hi mom!

Haha I forgot to say that Bishop Vanderley is not actually my bishop, he's the bishop of Porto 2 (I'm in Porto 1) But he works here in the office for President Amorim so it's lots of fun! He's from São Tomé e Principe. 

You should send a picture of the bridal shower cake! Haha I saved all of your cake pictures and sometimes I like to look at them because they are so awesome.

That stinks that you got sick again! It could have been from the aliens in that movie! Does your stomach still hurt from the surgery? Or is this the only side effect? I'll make sure to pray lots for you. At least you'll be all the way better by the time I get home! :)

You know, not like you guys have to, or even do it until it's close to me getting back, but you should make a list of good movies/other stuff for when I get back, so that we can party! I already have a request if I haven't said it yet - when I get back home, since it will be July 4th, you guys should save all of the yummy american food that I will be missing out on that day (I think missionaries normally return at like 10PM so I'll totally miss July 4th!) and I've been craving real chocolate chip cookies and GOOD milk my whole mission, so yeah. Haha this was a trunky paragraph, sorry! :)

Anna had sadie Hawkins? Is that like a girls choice dance? I didn't ever have that dance at Northridge. Did she have fun? You guys are so cool to have the dinner at home! I always thought it was a lot of fun to do a dinner like that. Haha I guess I could just ask her about it, but I'm sure it's different from a mom's perspective too!

Oh yeah, Trump won. I heard about that! Apparently (Really apparently, since I haven't heard anything but what portugal and my office comps have to offer) lots of people (like other moms and stuff) are happier with him than Clinton! My friend Jacob Jackson made a good point and said that the best we can do is pray for him, because he'll be the leader of our nation and should be influenced for good and righteousness as much as we can help him be! If you have any thoughts on the situation, I've been in the dark and wouldn't mind hearing your thoughts! And Dad's too!

Wow, Christmas is coming up so fast! I can't believe it! I've been in the office since the 1st of August! That's nuts! I think it will be fun for you guys to go and have dinner with the Braeggers (did I spell that right?). Grandma Folkman told me that Zach is living in Brigham or something and that he's working down here with Uncle Mark. That's neat! 

That's a really awesome quote. I remember hearing the Portuguese version and the English is better. :) I think that's the best way that I work, actually - when I see the blessings and good things God has given me through the Gospel, it makes me want to share it even more! Those are good days, when I can have that attitude!

My computer is being lame and won't let me send pictures! :( I'll figure it out.

Random Fact: I have lots of ties and socks right now! I have received a bunch of ties from members/missionaries and I have like 45! Haha they're not all awesome ties though - chinese stores are a big thing here (they are all really run by chinese people) and so I have like 8 ties that cost €3 or less. It's pretty funny! And all of my socks are in good condition. I don't have any holes in any of them! Also, Elder is a name here (they spell it Helder) and so most of the time people will be confused and say "both of your names are Elder??" It's pretty funny. Apparently there was also a TV show where someone says "oi Elder!" that was pretty popular, so we here "oi Elder!" about 80 times a day from random kids and teenagers. 

Okay, well I love ya! Have a good week mom! :) Sorry I couldn't get pictures in! I don't know what's up.

Love, Elder Valentine!






Elder V to Daddy V - Reply to "A Week at Home"

Hi Dad!

I did get to read your email and see all the pictures. It is all so amazing! I loved the pictures because I have been reading Jesus the Christ and James E. Talmage explains a lot of the topography and geography of the Lord's ministry, and sometimes it helps me visualize or imagine the scriptures better to see where it happened. Your trip sounds really amazing! I know that it was probably stressful sometimes, but I'm learning on the mission that the best times to remember are a lot of times the busiest or most stressful! 

Oh! You didn't watch Young Frankenstein?? I was counting on you guys watching it in my honor! I have mentioned it as a family tradition to the elders in my house. 

I hadn't heard that there were more Meet the Mormons segments - that's awesome! Was it pretty short or basically a new movie? I definitely wish we had more youth. There is a total of 2 young men and 1 young women (or woman haha)! 

Haha that's a funny prophet joke. I've got a Mormon one for ya - How many Mormon's does it take to screw in a lightbulb? 5 - one to screw in the lightbulb, one to preside, two to say the prayers, and one to bring the refreshments.

But on the serious part, I have thought a bit about your job in the church, and I remember one time that you said that one of the things you love about your job is that most of your meetings begin with a prayer. How sweet! Also, I like your job because it's the Lord's work - He won't let something bad happen to the business if it will slow down His work, so you can have faith that as you do your job and live the Gospel and fulfill your calling etc. that you will have real success at work! I like that. 

Haha yeah you big tough guy not getting sick! I bet it was just because you traveled so much and stayed out of the house!

More trips! Wow!

Answer to question - I think that the most important thing about the gifts of the Spirit is remembering the fact that, without God, we would be nothing. God gives us gifts for the benefit of others, so if we are striving to serve others with the gifts we are given, He will make those gifts/talents bigger in our lives. For example, I bet Amanda is going to get better with her music abilities quickly because she is writing LDS music now. Like I said, God gives us gifts to serve, and they can be huge parts of our lives if we use them how He wants. I see people who are dedicated to the Gospel, and people who are not, and I see the difference in "progression" in their lives. Family, social, personal, whatever - people who really live the gospel seem to be able to do more or serve better, but it's not because they are just special, but they dedicated themselves to God and God blessed them with more, because they used it well! It's like the parable of the pounds. Christ will give more to him who has a lot, because that man will use that "more" better! And those who don't use what they have don't progress, and get what they have taken away. That's just a little thought! 

Okay! Love you dad! Gotta go! You're awesome! Be safe on your trips!


Love, Elder Valentine!

Elder V to Mommy V - Reply to "What a Week" email

Hi mom!

I can't believe that everyone got sick! That's crazy! Did Dad just not get sick because he has been gone on trips? How are you feeling now? Has your snoring gone away? Haha it's a little bit funny but mostly just sad! I agree - being sick is just no fun! My least favorite thing is being burned, then being sick. I'll pray for the family to be feeling better!

Halloween sounds like a lot of fun! I took some pictures of my halloween costume - Elder Yoder  - but I can't find my camera! I don't know where I put it. I've been running around so much and getting home late every day and leaving early so much that I haven't even had time to look! Haha I'll have a lot of really crazy memories of being in the office, for sure!

The lesson with Virgílio was good! There is a cultural thing here that is hard for missionary work. It's that people will literally talk over each other so much that two people can be "talking" to each other but they are both talking at the same time, the whole time! That's not even a joke! They just interrupt and talk FOREVER. Virgílio is a little like that, haha. I have had to learn to draw the line of patience and just teaching. Preach My Gospel says that sometimes people will dominate a conversation and that we need to learn to handle the situation and teach effectively, which is super important in this country! So yeah, it was a good lesson, we just didn't get to teach as much as we wanted. We will keep teaching him and helping him with the stuff I talked about in the big email!

I'll try to take more pictures. I'm sorry! It's just never something I think about until Pday and then the week is already over!

Elder Wait is from Boston. He already graduated as an Architect with his Bachelors, I think! I don't know if he gets a lot of packages or anything. I'll ask him, discreetly, if he does or not and if he needs anything. Thanks mom!

I love big letters! I always read your and Dad's letters, no matter the length, and frankly letters from the family are better anyway! So write as much as you want!

And because of that, I'm sorry my letters have been short lately!

I love that scripture! God is so good!

Well, I gotta write Dad and I'll see if I can write the fam anymore. I love you mom! :)

Love, Elder Valentine! 




November 7 Group Email

My people,

What a fantastic last week this was! I do hope that you all felt the same!

Let me just say, as I have said before, that I love the Gospel for it's clarity and veracity. We taught Virgílio, who I think I mentioned last week. He's great! He just needs to have a better understanding of who God is. He believes firmly in Mother Nature and America. Two positive things, but he doesn't yet understand that God is a true and living Father in Heaven. He (Virgílio) is lost in religion, and thankfully we're here to help! God loves His children and wants them to know Him!

We also found a guy named Walter. He is super prepared for the Gospel! He accepted baptism right as soon as we invited him! The only problem is that he lives past Valongo, a city about 1:45 hour drive from us. Thankfully it's still in our area! Have I already said that I have a big area? Well that puts it into perspective - and I can drive a car for another couple hours past that and still be in what is technically my area! Sometimes I feel like Alma, who in Alma 29 wanted to preach the gospel to all as an Angel, and said - 

 9 I know that which the Lord hath commanded me, and I glory in it. I do not glory of myself, but I glory in that which the Lord hath commanded me; yea, and this is my glory, that perhaps I may be an instrument in the hands of God to bring some soul to repentance; and this is my joy.
 10 And behold, when I see many of my brethren truly penitent, and coming to the Lord their God, then is my soul filled with joy; then do I remember what the Lord has done for me, yea, even that he hath heard my prayer; yea, then do I remember his merciful arm which he extended towards me.
Unfortunately, I can't preach the gospel to all of the people within that 4 hour radius. I would love to, but I am just one missionary in big place. But I know the Lord uses His servants to bring souls to Him, and I will go forth with the Gospel to as many as I can! And how can we apply this to a non-full time missionary life? Well, "by small and simple things are great things come to pass, and small means in many instances doth confound the wise." God doesn't ask for us to be instantly be ready to serve in our callings, or to talk openly to our friends about the gospel; He gives us the way as we DO. So DO! I love you all!

- Elder Valentine

Halloween Group Email - October 31

My brethren, all ye that have assembled yourselves together, you that can hear my words which I shall speak unto you this day,

(Name that scripture reference)

Hello! Well! It's been quite a ride! transfers happened last week, and I'm staying with Elder Yoder. This will make transfer #3, and next transfer is his last, which means we'll almost certainly stay together for 4. 6 months with one comp! Woop! In the office, I had to make sure everyone who was transfered in the mission got to where they needed to be, and people missed buses and got into their areas at midnight which means I was up until midnight, which was just dandy, and now I am alone as the Exec. Secretary here, so I'll have a lot more to do now! 

We found a funny guy this week who loves 'Merica, and was really interested in talking to us! His name is Virgilio, and he has a cute little family; they're perfect candidates for baptism! We have a lesson with them tonight so we'll see where the Spirit takes us! 

"Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." One thing I learned this week is that Christ didn't tell us WHEN to be perfect. He didn't say "be ye therefore perfect right now," He just told us to do it. The fact that we don't have a time limit is so important! Perfection is not achieved in one miraculous moment when we feel the spirit super strong or overcome a big challenge. Perfection is achieved after a life of trying, failing a lot, repenting, and trying again, and as we do so, we become better, and through the Atonement we achieve perfection. My friends, try your best! God is so good, and just wants you to keep pushing forward on your journey to Him. He is your Father, and that relationship gives you power to ask for His help and guidance, and you can know that He is always on your side! Even when you fall. Especially then! So keep going! Don't let a bad day or bad week or bad year, as President Nelson put it, keep you from achieving your ultimate potential. I love you all! Have a week full of hope and joy, because God is on your side!

Also, Happy Halloween! 🕷🕸🍬🍫🍭🎃


- Elder Valentine!